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Anti Social

Saya memang suka di rumah, hanya keluar rumah untuk urusan penting saja. Saya lebih sering menggunakan laptop untuk bekerja sehari-hari daripada komunikasi dengan orang lain. Saya tidak akan datang ke acara jika saya malas pergi kesana apalagi memang tidak diundang. Ketika di acara pun saya lebih banyak menjadi pendengar, jarang bicara/bercanda(biasanya jayus/garing). Lalu apakah itu menjadikan saya orang anti sosial?

Teman dekat saya cukup banyak dan kadang-kadang mereka datang ke rumah saya dengan berbagai alasan(biasanya untuk konsultasi komputer/laptop/internet). Saya juga kadang janjian dengan teman untuk sekadar ngobrol atau jalan bareng. Bahkan saya sekarang tinggal dengan 4 teman saya(satu kontrakan). Memang ada aja masalah yang terjadi, tetapi selalu selesai. Lalu apakah itu menjadikan saya orang gaul?

Ada beberapa teman saya yang bilang saya autis karena saya dianggap anti sosial. Padahal istilah anti sosial itu menjadi terlalu umum digunakan. Karakteristik utama seorang anti sosial adalah rasa ketidakpeduliannya yang sangat parah terhadap hak orang lain dan aturan/hukum di masyarakat. Mereka jarang sekali merasa menyesal dan tidak pernah merasa bersalah.
Anti Social

Referensi yang didapat dari Internet mengatakan bahwa Antisocial Personality Disorder (APD) dapat disamakan dengan perilaku kriminal. Saking samanya, faktanya adalah hampir seluruh(65-75%) penjahat memilikinya. Ciri-cirinya:

  • Tidak bertanggung jawab
  • Tidak taat aturan
  • Impulsif
  • Tidak peduli hak/keselamatan orang lain
  • Tidak merasa sedih
  • Manipulatif dan curang
  • Mudah marah
  • Rasa berkuasa
  • Apatis
  • Sikap tidak sadar
  • Menyalahkan orang lain
  • Sangat dingin
  • Pemahaman yang bertentangan

Jika ada yang merasa memiliki 3 diantara karakteristik yang di-bold, maka kalian bisa dianggap ANTI SOSIAL.

Sebenarnya ada juga alasan lain kenapa kita mungkin dianggap anti sosial oleh seseorang:
I Don't Like You

Tinggal di lingkungan masyarakat dimana keinginan seringkali kalah dengan tuntutan dan ekspektasi orang lain itu membuat saya agak beda. Hal ini yang biasanya menyebabkan kita dianggap beda/autis/anti-sosial karena kita tidak melakukan apa yang “banyak” orang lakukan. Kadang memang merasa terkucil, untungnya menemukan teman yang sama naifnya untuk mewujudkan keinginan/mimpi ini. Menjadi benar secara kolektif menjadi norma dari menjadi benar apa adanya. Semoga tiap orang yang merasa beda dikuatkan keyakinannya untuk terus mengejar keinginannya di jalan yang baik dengan niat yang baik.

Feng Shui Kamar

Fengshui adalah suatu warisan animisme yang memanfaatkan hukum langit (astronomi) dan hukum alam(geografi) yang bisa membantu kehidupan seseorang sehingga bisa menerima Qi(energi kehidupan) positif (Wiki). Saat ini, Fengshui lebih sering dikaitkan dengan ilmu tata letak rumah/bangunan. Saya bukan penganut animisme tapi memang posisi barang-barang di rumah bisa mempengaruhi ruang gerak dan aktivitas orang didalamnya.
Saya melihat kamar saya sebagai tempat yang nyaman untuk istirahat. Hal ini memang sudah terbukti baik yang saya alami sendiri maupun komentar dari semua orang yang pernah masuk ke kamar saya. Mereka merasa (terlalu) nyaman, meskipun kadang berantakan. Kamar ini bisa digunakan untuk main komputer, tidur, makan, olah raga peregangan, ngobrol, baca buku/komik, atau hanya bengong saja di kamar.
Masalahnya adalah saya juga menggunakan kamar tidur saya itu untuk bekerja. Saya merasa kinerja saya kurang baik saat ini. Oleh karena itu, saya mengubah posisi barang-barang di kamar.

—SEBELUM—
sebelum

—SESUDAH—
sesudah

Saya merasa perubahan posisi ini baik karena bisa meningkatkan produktivitas saya. Semoga saja.
Saya dapat beberapa tips yang saya terapkan dalam situs rumah dan properti. Berikut tips Feng Shui yang saya dapat

1. Gunakan satu kasur.
Kasur yang ditumpuk akan menggangu pandangan dan membuat kamar terlihat sempit. Jika tidak dapat dihindari, sebaiknya kasur disusun sejajar.
2. Bentuk ruangan yang beraturan (persegi).
Ruangan dengan bentuk teratur memudahkan anda dalam menyusun segala perabot dan tidak menyisakan sudut-sudut kosong sebagai tempat bersarangnya energi negatif.
3. Letak kamar tidak diapit dua pintu.
Kamar tidak boleh berada diantara dua pintu yang saling berhadapan, atau menghadap langsung ke pintu utama karena akan menghalangi energi (chi) yang masuk dari depan.
4. Posisi terbaik diagonal antara pintu dan tembok di belakangnya.
Pastikan ketika membangun rumah, pintu kamar tidur berada pada posisi diagonal dengan tembok yang ada di belakangnya.
5. Tidak berada tepat di bawah palang menonjol, jendela, atau kamar mandi.
Palang menonjol yang telihat dari dalam kamar tidur akan memberikan kesan tidak rapi dan dapat mengganggu kenyamanan tidur anda.
6. Tempatkan kamar tidur di sektor sejuk dan tenang.
Gunakan teori yin dan yang untuk warna tirai, seprai, dan karpet. Yang adalah putih terang, sedangkan yin hitam, gelap.
7. Posisi kepala menentukan keberuntungan.
Usahakan posisi kepala mengarah ke sheng chi (energi menguntungkan) Anda.
8. Hindari benda bentuk tajam mengarah ke posisi tidur Anda.
Perabotan dan aksesoris yang anda letakkan di dalam kamar sebaiknya tertata rapih di dalam laci atau buffet khusus sehingga tidak ada yang berserakan dan mengarah ke tempat tidur.
9. Hindari tempat tidur yang terpantul pada cermin.
Posisi cermin jangan berhadapan atau bersebelahan dengan tempat tidur, karena hal ini akan memantulkan bayangan yang tidak baik bagi hubungan anda dengan pasangan.
10. Hindarkan bentuk air di kamar tidur.
Bentuk air lebih tepat jika anda meletakkannya di halaman depan sebagai penangkap energi positif. Hindari pula tanaman hidup, lukisan binatang, benda tajam, atau pistol berada di dalam kamar.

Before Sunset [old movie]

I like this movie very much and would like to share it with you guys…enjoy. check out this movie in imdb and wiki

Before Sunset is a sequel of the first movie “Before Sunrise”. I would try to analyse dialogues between the two main actors who just meet again after a long time not seeing or contacting each other. The movie only consists of the dialogue between them. The first movie is about a US writer, Jesse, and French environmental activist, Celine, who have acquainted nine years ago on the train from Budapest to Vienna. They had a romantic interest for a one night stand. They promised to meet again six months from that day but it didn’t happen.

Now in the sequel, they meet again when Jesse arrives in Paris for his book tour. So, they stroll around Paris and talk about their lives including experiences, views on things, love, and work. In the movie, Celine tell Jesse that she was studying in America for 2 years and ever since working as an activist while Jesse in the mean time was writing a best-seller-material book about their romantic evening in Vienna. They start to talk by saying how exciting the moment is because they could meet again. Celine knew that Jesse would come to Paris because she saw the announcement of his arrival in the local bookstore. She also concerned about the reason the meeting that they planned didn’t happen. He joked about it and said to her not to worry because it’s not only her who is sorry but so is he.

Then, they talk about his book, about French love. She comments on about the characters and plot in the story, the continuation of the story, and also how great it is to write a best-seller book. He responds by saying thank you and asks back what she is doing now. She explains about her work in organization dealing with environment protection and her concerns with problems around the world. He replies by joking around and it makes her sensible. But then, he also shows his concern that he is also aware the seriousness of the problems. Afterward, they share their stories about what they’ve been doing in nine years. The dialogues continue with the similar pattern that is when one person is talking then the other would reply it with jokes while showing interest with the topic. The topics are very rich ranging from their education, life and love in Paris and New York, stories about Buddhist temple, their exes, their views to the world, their dreams, his trip around Europe, his marriage, their night in Vienna long ago, their childhood, their problems in life, and their development in nine years . They also talk about sex and religion.

Then the conversation is getting serious after a while when they talked about their condition and relationship. At first, Celine pretended that she doesn’t have any more feeling toward him. She even pretended that she forgot that they had sex nine years ago in Vienna. She even said that women do that sometime (stereotype). Then, asked directly, she confesses that she still has feeling for him and misses him all this time. She never had any more romantic relationship like the one that she had with Jesse. The interesting thing is that he also has similar feeling. Although he is now married, he still likes her all this time. He confesses that writing the book is one of the ways that he could think of to find her. He is not happy with his marriage although his life seems perfect.

After watching the movie, I can conclude that the situation between the two main characters is semiformal. Although they haven’t met for nine years, they don’t show formality in their conversations based on the vocabulary used. They can get along quickly because that they were once close in a relationship before and they are in the same age but they still their maturity by talking many interesting topics. They started to the conversation with small talk like saying how exciting they are to meet again, asking about their recent activities and their likes and dislikes. They praise each other accomplishments, reply appropriately, sometimes with jokes, and interrupt if necessary. They could initiate conversation with one topic and maintain it with unrelated topic but they still respect it and give feedback. When one is saying something, the other would agree or disagree with one’s opinion, even criticise it. It’s a “Ping-Pong” conversation style. They show respect for each other culture but Celine praise some characteristic that American culture that French doesn’t have that she misses after going back from US. At the beginning it’s a hesitant conversation because they just meet after nine years not seeing each other. But after doing the small talk, they start to ask more direct questions. It becomes a heated conversation while talking about their true feelings to each other.

My Red Thunder

After a long wait, I finally got a hand of my motorcycle. It’s Suzuki Thunder ’07. It’s coloured with red and black paint. Red Thunder The minute I saw that motorcycle, I like it very much. I said to myself, “I won’t sell this thing to other person no matter what”. Since it’s still new, I have to make sure the adaptation will go smoothly. The mechanic said that I shouldn’t put too much strain, I’ve to go below 60 km/h for the next 500km or so. Then, I could increase the speed until 80km/h for the 1500km. After that, I could go as fast as i can. The maximum speed is about 100-110 km/h. I plan to make some modifications but I’ll save until next year. I want to make it taller by changing the tires. Any suggestions?

Damn coffee

I said to my friends that I will accompany them to go Dutch Consulate. They wanted to ask about how’s life in Netherland. They got scholarship to study there. Unfortunately, when we arrived in the office, it’s already closed. The office boy told us that we could come back tomorrow between 8am-2pm. One of my friends ask me to accompany them to a coffee cafe in a shopping mall near campus. I didn’t know where it is. So, we went there. Well, I’d like to know it myself because I don’t go around much. On our way there, I just realized that I’ve left my wallet at home. Although it’s not a problem, I felt bad asking one of them to lend me some money.
We got to the cafe. It’s a cozy place. The atmosphere is nice and all. So, we ordered a cup of coffee each. I asked for an espresso. The waiter asked, “Single or Double”. I said “Single”. When the waiter came back my coffee, I was very surprised to know that it’s a very tiny cup of espresso. It’s even smaller than I’ve at home. While my friends were pleased with their orders, I felt really disappointed. It’s a very tiny cup that cost me Rp. 7.500. The money that I borrow from my friends.
I hope I will have better experience when visiting another coffee cafe.

I’m selling my house in Jakarta

I’m thinking of selling my house in Jakarta. It is located in Jl. Pagelarang No. 40 Rt.02 / Rw.01 Kelurahan Setu Jakarta Timur. Although it’s not downtown but you’ll have two accesses to the Cikampek-Jagorawi Highway. The size of the house is 110 m2 built in 365 m2 land. You’ll get three bedrooms, two bathrooms, and garden with garage. You’ll also get 1300-Watt of electricity and fixed telephone. The plumbing is already available although I think it need to be fixed but not much.

The Map. See the the pentagon marked by the blue arrow

I’m opening the price at Rp. 515.000.000, it’s still negotiable. But, let me assure you that it’s good deal. There are plenty of trees, the environment is still well-cared. People there are friendly and nice. The neighborhood is also nice, there is less crime compared with any other areas in Jakarta. The MOST important thing: FLOOD DOESN’T REACH MY HOUSE. When Jakarta was flooded a few months ago, it doesn’t happened in my neighborhood. The house is located in higher ground than the rest of the area so it’s not affected by the flood.

Does anyone want to have a house in Jakarta? If you’re interested please contact me (022-91350274) or just leave a comment here.